Maybe you still need to "work" on her a bit.
You can do so in many ways, but in general you want to put some clamps on her breasts, then add some weights on that.
Then put the rest of the clamps+weights on/around the crotch area.
Use the crop or paddle and keep hitting her butt while keeping an eye for any notifications - as the "taming" progresses the game should notify you how it is going, until finally it tells you its enough (i dont remember the exact words, but i think it was about she enjoying it and that you can now order her to the cage or the machine).
If in doubt, keep whipping her for a minute or two (or three)

Then try the "get in cage" or "get in fuck machine" again.
EDIT: hmm, if she is asking whether you "have something kinky on your mind" - that sounds like she is ready, but i could be wrong.
Give it more time, maybe make sure to use the clamps+weights on her, and the crop, then maybe try the dildo for a good measure (i may be wrong, but MAYBE the game wants you to use some more of those toys - make sure you use the crop, clamps on nipples + weights, and the dildo).