You did not happen to tell her to "shutup" did ya if not ill check this out tomorrow

in fact on repeated play it seems like once i get her wet she says one more thing and then stops responding
am i missing something?

Lets see if we can figure it out
Inside the main XStoryPlayer 3.5 folder there should be a trace.txt what is your Version

3.5.0020

it should be the latest version ive gotten all the holiday updates and things

EDIT: so ive tried different thing with different girls and retirements and treatments, but it seems i keep hitting a wall where they stop responding to a majority of commands and if they are knocked out they are knocked out for good unless i restart the dungeon

Sounds like the timers are not getting triggered

Only thing i can suggest is re downloading the mod and unpacking the dungeon again it might be that something did not copy across

ok ill try that
tomorrow, i need sleep
also am i supposed to see the counters for arousal and stuff?

nope there are no counters but they do tell you when they change states

ok so after deleting the old pack_dungeon, unpacking a new one, redownloading the mod and dragging and dropping the files into the new unpacked dungeon by hand im still having trouble.

at some point they just stop responding, sometimes with Monica its after i get her wet, or taking her out of the chains after putting her in them after knocking her out, some times with saiko its after telling her to take off her panties, or making her sit, but at some point they stop responding to most commands and will not budge until i restart the dungeon.
if it helps im usually playing with only one girl active at a time and the only other mods i have installed are drag and drop clothes mods

The girls have a chain of files that make them work the main ones being their run.dat
This run.dat get ran every game tick and everything inside of it get ran because of it
If the game stops running this run.dat for whatever reason then they will stop doing everything and just stand there forever

Reinstalling the game might fix it but if you don't have any problems with the other dungeons then it might not

If you want open up your settings.ini in the main folder and change the below then run the dungeon and when they stop responding type something like "stopped responding" then do a few more commands and PM me the trace.txt

I PMed the info and can also redo it if need be